climbing up for air

Once again, up at 4:35 in the morning. At least this time it’s a Saturday.

I signed up to do Record Production Month again this year, wherein you pick a quantity of music you want to record (a single, EP, or full album) during the month of February.

This is the third year in a row I’ve tried to do this, and maybe the first one where I actually end up making the thing I set out to. In quantity, anyway.

I had intended to do some sort of bedroom pop thing, like the stuff I’ve been making the past while. I tried for the first couple of weeks, then got totally consumed with prepping for a gig I ended up playing mid month (which is a subject for another time). I only just got back to it today, with a week left, because the mailing list I signed up for originally sent out a “if you haven’t started yet, it’s fine! BUT JUST DO IT” email that I found strangely comforting/vaguely guilt-inducing. So I tried again.

What ended up coming out of my brain was three improvised pieces of ambient/drone/whatever the fuck, using my guitar and a bunch of pedals, most notably the Chase Bliss Mood and Walrus Audio Lore. And it was actually fun to make. I think I’ve been putting a ton of pressure on myself to make music in a very specific way, and it’s just not working. I keep saying “my brain is broken” but maybe it’s just getting re-wired again… I’ve decided this happens whenever I go through a period of being depressed and start to either come out of it or at least realize what’s going on and try to climb up to the surface a little, to get some fresh air. And right now that apparently means I have zero desire to write lyrics or otherwise address my current brain rot in a direct way. In retrospect I’m not sure why I didn’t just try to do something different in the first place. Or maybe I did try earlier in the month, but didn’t think weird improvised ambient counted as music, which is silly because I actively listen to this sort of thing.

Either way, I made a thing and I think it sounds decent and it made me feel less like shit for an hour so I’ll take the win.

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i dare you to move, dare you to lift yourself up off the floor

Yesterday, at like 10pm, I got an urge to take out my very old and chonky Dell laptop. I didn’t remember quite how old it actually was – Stace was able to look up the service number, and it was purchased in November 2003. I used it regularly until about 2007, and a few times in 2009 from what I can tell.

It was a disorienting early 2000’s time capsule, which I expected, but wasn’t able to meaningfully access the internet anymore, which I was not expecting. Something about a bookmarks folder full of hundreds of dead links that I’d never be able to access again was jarring. There’s a whole era of the internet that’s just… gone. This is not an original thought, and the reason why the wayback machine exists, but it still sucks.

But that’s not the thing I came here to write about… I found a folder full of old writing. It’s definitely backed up elsewhere, but I couldn’t resist the opportunity to read it in its natural habitat. I went through most of it, until 5am cause I’m an idiot, and like every time I do this sort of thing, by the end I felt very weird.

The weird feeling always happens, like I forget who I am for a couple of hours, like I’m reading about someone else. I don’t know if other people feel this way about their younger selves; maybe it’s a function of having so much written down. It has a “watching a car crash in slow motion” quality.

I kind of hate who I was from 21 to 24 or so. I was so fucking dramatic, and ungrateful, and self centered. But I was also deeply anxious and depressed, with some raging undiagnosed ADHD thrown in for good measure. One thing that stood out yesterday, in the disjointed chronology of poems and journal entries and AIM conversations, is how the systems that should have helped me out of that hole failed me over and over.

I’ve written about this before. The dismissive primary care doctors and school administrators, the unaccommodating and unsympathetic counseling department at Simmons. I kept reaching out, knowing something was really wrong, but kept getting told it wasn’t bad enough, I wasn’t sick enough, until suddenly I was sleeping through all my classes and not leaving my dorm room and self injuring and getting blackout drunk all the time. But what struck me for the first time last night was one sentence, buried in a journal entry about the meds I’d been taking for a month at that point: “Also, noticing colors more. Things seem a bit physically brighter, I feel more ‘here.'”

How fucking depressed had I been? And for how long? No wonder I was such an asshole.

I still don’t really like who I was or how I acted back then. But having one concrete reason I can point to is comforting. I was trying to claw my way out of a hole I’d been in for years, without much of a support system, without the resources of the modern internet and, let’s be honest, some shitty attitudes about mental health that wouldn’t begin to change for at least another decade.

I said a long time ago that this blog wasn’t for drama and was only gonna be about crafting and baking and nice photos. But it’s good to have a place to write this out. Life isn’t all fun hobbies and good food. Honestly, it’s like 75% shit, at least lately. But being able to look back and know I handled things the best I could, and that I’m way, way better at handling them now, feels useful.

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on and on it will always be rhythm, rhyme, and harmony

So Christine McVie died today.

I have… a lot of feelings.

My thing with Fleetwood Mac started in 9th grade, when my dad handed me a cassette of their 1975 self-titled album, and told me to give it a try, I might like it. And I did, in a completely obnoxious way, in the way you only really get into things when you’re 15, and they become your entire personality. I became that asshole, the one recommending two-decade-old music to anyone who would listen, like I had made some huge discovery.

I scoured the internet for grainy photos of them to print out and tape to my bedroom wall. I lurked on forums, dug through my dad’s bookstore for biographies and old magazine articles, pilfered all my parents’ cassettes and listened to them on an old Walkman, in the glowing dark of our living room in the middle the night. And when Napster became a thing, I downloaded lo-fi demos from the 70’s, multiple versions of the same song, each one slightly closer to the one that made it on the album, tracking all the changes in instrumentation and lyrics and melody.

I liked plenty of other music, but this was eternal. Each album became the soundtrack to a summer, or a shitty year of school, or a miserable unrequited crush. I got really into the song Save Me (an underrated Christine jam from an otherwise crappy album) while I was at Dublin, far away from my friends and family, wishing for a time machine, a way to go back to the year before.

The Christine songs I’ve been listening to on repeat all night:
Save Me (from Behind the Mask)
Over & Over (from Tusk)
Love Shines (from 25 Years – The Chain)
Temporary One (from The Dance)
Hold Me (from Mirage)
Little Lies (from Tango in the Night)

the river goes on and on,
and the sea that divides us is
a temporary one
and the bridge will bring us back together

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the cause is gone, the effect all that remains

I just spent way too much time reading through ancient journal entries on a bunch of my old blogs I thought for sure had been eaten by the internet. Turns out Blogger still exists, and is owned by Google, and at some point I updated my email to the one I’m still using, so all these old as fuck pages are still kicking around. The really old stuff, from 2002-2003, was likely using a theme that’s not compatible with modern Blogger, so while I can access the content from the back end, the front facing blog is blank. This is for the best. Even the slightly newer stuff (2006-2007) is full of things no one needs to see ever again. Thankfully, I was appropriately vague at the time, so it’s not likely to make sense to anyone, if it’s even findable.

I don’t really have a point here, I was just already having a weird week, and then read a bunch of writing from 15-20 years ago (christ I’m old), so now I’m all discombobulated.

Also realizing I haven’t posted on here about actual baking or crafting in forever. I’ve been working on a bunch of holiday knit gifts the past while, which I’ll try to remember to take photos of once they’re all finished and blocked. Perhaps a show and tell, once they’ve been delivered to their new homes? Will the ADHD goblin allow me to remember this in a month?? ONLY TIME WILL TELL.

On a related note, in a few of the old journal entries I mentioned having a ton of trouble concentrating, and wondered aloud if there was a reason for it, or if I was actually just lazy. Jaq from 20 years ago, if you’ve somehow stumbled upon a temporal anomaly while cruising AOL: you’re not lazy, you have ADHD. Ask Jeeves about it or something.

In the meantime, some nature:

And now, for the epilogue of this not-a-story: I must have summoned the ADHD goblin. I just spilled soup all over my laptop, because I was eating OVER it and trying to type at the same time. Well done.

Lots of love for all, especially my fellow goblin-havers.

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the red truth

It’s been a minute.

I got two teeth extracted the other day, and a bone graft. My face is wicked swollen and my mouth is full of stitches, and it’s itchy and achy and uncomfortable. Doing anything that raises my heart rate makes it throb. I just want to get back to something resembling normal.

I wish I could turn off the guilty feeling I get from calling out of work when I’m sick or injured. It’s so stupid.

I wish it were warm out. I wish I could see my friends. I wish I could go to shows and bars and movie theatres. I still miss all of those things. I know this will end, eventually. But what will be left when it does?

I’m home today, with my stupid swollen face. I would rather be out walking dogs. I would rather be doing a lot of things.

Knitting and Star Trek are the things keeping me afloat. Which is okay I guess. But those things will eventually run of room to hold all my boredom and loneliness and sadness. And then what?

I feel like I should end this with something positive, so have some cats. They’re cute at least. <3

(Re the title: screwing around with Spotify playlists, I had forgotten about Helios)

 

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haunt me, haunt me, do it again

It’s 1:44 am. I’m an idiot – I shouldn’t be awake right now. I needed to go to bed hours ago. But I fell down an ambient/IDM rabbit hole like it was 2010, and truthfully, it was pretty lovely.

Everything feels so fucked up right now. Everything is somehow both in flux and going molassis-slow – a long slog through sticky sand that’s also somehow disappearing from beneath my feet.

Packing to move feels so incredibly bizarre – such a big thing, such a weirdly mundane thing, the world continuing to turn despite also coming to a grinding halt.

Getting in touch with old friends. That’s good. But it also makes me think about old things, years past, makes old feelings bubble to the surface. I wasn’t in the mood for this stuff, I’m still not. And yet, here we are.

Funny how we sometimes turn out closer to our younger selves than the years between – I took a 10 year detour away from androgyny, but I came back around, realized it was right all along. I found the language to describe something that had been lurking deep below the surface for such a long time. Those old photos, the cargo pants and giant band shirts, they were me.

The ones between? The short dresses and low necklines and ponytails? They look like someone else, now. Like an uncomfortable, scared, exhausted human trying so hard to please everyone around them. That’s the person I see in those photos.

I have so much more to say about this. And I’m feeling kind of embarrassed about posting old photos… but then that’s the nice thing about having your very own corner of the internet, outside of social media – no one cares! No sarcasm for once; it’s actually pretty great.

Aaaaaaand now it’s 3:16 am. Why am I like this??

(Re the title: I discovered that most of Tim Hecker’s catalogue is available to order on CD. I am very excited, and soon to have less money.)

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can you hear the hollow sound… tap tap…

March 2020 was a hell of a month. I started it out thinking I was doing Ladies Rock Camp Boston in April, seeing Polaris in June, and going to Firefly in July. By the end of March, all those plans had dissipated, and now, on April 9th, seem unthinkable.

Shit has been weird. We all know this.

It all happened so fast. It took me a couple weeks of panic attacks and crying to catch up – to get it through my head that things were different now, and I had to get used to it real quick or else get crushed under its weight.

I haven’t written much in the past couple of years – I always feel like I’m too busy, or scattered, or sad – and while that’s still true, it feels more important now. I need some record of how this time felt, how it was to exist during the pandemic. I’ve heard a lot of comparisons to 9/11, or to the Boston Marathon bombing, and I’ve made those comparisons myself. But this is different. This is everything, and everywhere, all at once. This is long term. This is daily life essentially changing overnight, and all of us left reeling, trying to make some sense of it, trying to find a way to carry on.

The early days of this (all of three weeks ago), everything felt terrifying all the time. I watched a lot of early 2000s music videos, staying up deep into the night, wallowing in the sadness of times past in a way I haven’t allowed myself in years. I don’t know if that was the right thing to do, but it’s what I did. I felt the same crushing nostalgia, the same formless, aching loss that I did at 15, listening to the same three songs on repeat after I graduated Applewild.

I watched almost every music video Avril Lavigne has ever made, which is a shitload. I watched the video for Complicated, her hair flat ironed and her lids thick with black eyeliner, and missed high school, missed lurking around the mall, missed meandering car rides around Central Mass, missed a time before social media and smartphones, missed being 18.

I watched SNL music performances from only a year or two ago, that felt like relics of a forgotten time. I ached for concerts and crowds and noisy bars.

I allowed myself to feel all of this. And then, as much as I could, I let it go. It was the only way I could keep functioning. Just writing this is bringing it back, but I can’t let it overtake me again.

I’ve carved out a new routine, slowly – I still have a couple of dog walking clients, and it’s kept me leaving the house every day, kept me moving. I still go to the cafe down the street, like every morning, except now I have to order online and pick it up from the sidewalk, a gloved hand reaching out the door with my iced coffee. Stace and I have lunch together most days, he cooks a lot of dinners, we get takeout once or twice a week, our vague attempt to support the restaurants that are still open. Things are not normal. But they are okay.

(The title is from Kaki King’s 2010 album, Junior, which I reviewed on here many moons ago. Just as good now as it was 10 years ago.)

(PS WordPress sucks and I can’t get it to let me have a header that’s the correct size and it keeps tiling it like a fuckin Windows 95 background so I GIVE UP NO HEADER)

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thunder and lightning outside my window

Presently trying to resurrect this blog. I’m preparing (mentally, at least) to record some new songs, and I realized I didn’t have a good place to link from my bandcamp page.  I always liked this blog – it’s been a constant in a decade (holy shit a decade?) of moving, school, various jobs, more school, and trying to figure my shit out.

When I started this, I was 24, living in Brighton, helping to run a small business, and wickedly depressed and anxious. Now, I’m 33 (soon to be 34), living in Cambridge, walking dogs,  and primarily doing okay.  I know myself better, I know the things I need to do to stay functional.  I still haven’t figured out how to relax, or to be in the present moment instead of a week in the future or five years in the past, but I’m working on it. I’m slowly (so slowly) aligning the inside and the outside. I know I’m being cagey, and there’s so much more to say about this, but I’m not quite there yet. I’ll get there.

Ten years is a long goddamn time. I didn’t even set out to write about this; I didn’t realize I’d had this blog for this long. But it works, I guess. It’s a nice round number, a good place to begin.

In the meantime, have a couple of pretty photos from a horrible trip to Florida earlier in the year. Also my cats are ridiculous. <3

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moving forward

This an entry I wrote for my then-derby-league’s blog, but never submitted. I have recently transferred to a different league, but I liked this and wanted to post it somewhere.


Self confidence has long eluded me.

I was a very shy, anxious teenager. It was a huge accomplishment when I managed to speak up in class. I would frequently spend so long analyzing what I wanted to say that the moment it was relevant would pass, and I would be left silent and shaking instead.

Things got a bit better in my early 20’s – I had a couple of retail jobs where I had to learn very quickly how to talk to people. It was terrifying, but the longer I did it the easier it got. But the second guessing remained – I would lie awake at night thinking about things I’d said during the day that I thought were embarrassing, imagining customers or coworkers remembered these things with the same minute detail that I did. Of course I know that’s rarely true, but I couldn’t stop myself from thinking it.

Fast forward to May of 2012. I decided I wanted to play roller derby after seeing a friend’s bout up in Vermont. There was a magic in the air – all of these women were so badass. They were decisive, confident. That was the kind of person I wanted so badly to be – one that did things with conviction, that wasn’t so paralyzed by anxiety that she talked herself out of even starting anything new.

I began the fresh meat program with no assumption that I’d level up, ever. I just wanted to try. I wanted to be in better shape, and I needed to know if I could do something I set out to do, even if it scared me. I did the best that I could. I fell hard and often. I felt everyone’s eyes on me as I did a lap alone in a drill, I felt slow and awkward and uncoordinated. I saw only what I expected to see – all the failures, all the mistakes. When I assessed for level 1, I was so nervous I felt sick. I spent the entire assessment convincing myself that I had failed, telling myself it was okay, I would do better the next time. Much to my surprise and relief, I passed. But that triumph was soon drowned out by the much louder critic in my head – you’re slow, you’re out of shape, you will never get better.

I almost stopped going. It felt like so much pressure – why would I intentionally put myself through something so difficult?

But I had started this. And I wanted to be someone that did things with conviction, that wasn’t so paralyzed by anxiety that she talked herself out of continuing when things were hard.

At some point, I turned a corner. Practice became something I looked forward instead of something I dreaded. All the hours of skating, and all the time spent talking myself into going, began to pay off. I transitioned to skate backwards without falling, first only once, then more consistently. I found I could do 5 laps in one minute if I pushed myself hard enough.

Level 2 assessments came on a freezing, early Sunday morning. I was so nervous I shook through most of the assessment, started hyperventilating. I told myself that I could make it through one more drill. Then one more. Again, all I saw were mistakes – the times I fell, the times I stumbled. I convinced myself I hadn’t passed, that it was okay, that I would try again.

I passed.

When one of the assessors told me that I’d improved so much, that she was proud of me, I almost cried. I had accomplished something I thought was impossible.

While I still see the flaws, still second guess myself, I’m beginning to see the things I accomplish. I wish that I could tell my nervous, awkward teenage self the kind of woman I would become – someone that does things with conviction, that isn’t so paralyzed by anxiety that she talks herself out of moving forward.

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boards of canada – tomorrow’s harvest

And now I will talk about an album that actually just came out recently instead of 5 or 10 years ago!

I started out my Boards of Canada fandom slowly – I picked up the EP In a Beautiful Place Out in the Country on a whim at Newbie’s because it was cheap and I’d heard good things about BoC, but I never really got into it – it was only four songs, and while they were enjoyable they were not especially memorable. But a few years later, when I finally shelled out the money for a copy of their then-most-recent album, The Campfire Headphase, it was a different story. From the first listen I was absolutely in love. These were sounds I felt I needed to hear at the time – they filled a void in me in the way that only really, really good music can. Only a couple of days (and probably 5 or 6 full listens) later, I wrote this intimidating block of text about how fucking wonderful this album was. I was, and still am, completely enamoured with BoC generally and that album in particular. Having said that, I have since gone back and dipped into the rest of their catalogue. While I’ve found other lovely music (Music Has the Right to Children basically lives up to the hype), none of it has affected me like The Campfire Headphase. But Tomorrow’s Harvest is a close second.

I don’t know how to describe this music. It’s walking along city-bright streets at night, the lights in windows high above glinting sharp in the corners of your vision. You’re trying to get home, and you’d take the train but you missed the last one, so you’re walking alone. You’re a bit wary – this isn’t a part of the city you’re very familiar with. But the city at night is beautiful in a harsh sort of way – all reflections and angles and shades of grey.

It’s uneasy music, yes, but soothing at the same time – I was feeling particularly anxious when I listened to it for the first time earlier, and while it didn’t compound the anxiousness, it sort of validated it. Like I felt better about being anxious because this music agreed with me – the world can be a scary, uncertain place sometimes. But it’s also beautiful because of that.

While I really enjoy Music Has the Right to Children, it doesn’t affect me in the same way. It’s too light, too sunny and airy, to really stick. I listen to it a fair amount, when I can’t take anything else – emotionally loaded lyrics, or vapid pop, or moody electronica. So I guess it does fill a need. It’s music unencumbered with associations – it simply is, it fills the air with sweetness, it’s immensely enjoyable. But it’s not important in the same way.

But with Tomorrow’s Harvest, BoC has again filled a void. I needed this music earlier tonight, and music I need is music I will keep coming back to.

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